Dream Deceased: and that’s ok

Dream Deceased: and that’s ok

For nearly a decade or seventy percent of one at least, I have wanted a briefcase, and not just any briefcase. No, it was a special briefcase, one in-particular briefcase to be exact; a $700 briefcase ($900 after a price jump last summer) at that. This dreamed about, longed, hoped, and wished for briefcase – a Saddleback Leather Extra Large Classic Brief in Dark Coffee Brown or Tobacco. I have sold some other briefcases and messenger bags, and attempted to save systematically to buy the briefcase; I almost yearly jokingly posted on social media to ask people to buy it for my birthday. I even went as far as contemplating crowdfunding the purchase of my briefcase (fortunately that idea lasted as long as it took me to even type those words). Today, however, I am laying that dream to bed. You see I received an email from the company, (yes I was such a fan that I signed up for and was receiving email updates from the company), that certain items were being discontinued. I was quite certain that my beloved briefcase would not be on this list. I mean the Classic Briefcase is the bag for which this company is most known. I clicked on the link to the full list really out of amusement and there on the second line of the list of items to be discontinued it read rather dispassionately: Classic Leather Briefcase – size: Extra Large. Surely my eyes were wrong, it couldn’t be. Right? They would not make such a bold and drastic move as this. I quickly opened a new tab to Facebook and went to a group page consisting of fans of the company to confirm what I had read. As I quickly perused through the posts and comments I realized my dream was dead. I even emailed my wife to tell her she could be excited about never having to hear about the briefcase again.

So why did I allow this 7+ year dream to die so quickly? To answer that fully I need to go back to why I wanted this briefcase in the first place. Honestly it was about the size way more than the brand or color or style or perceived coolness of the briefcase. You see it is huge; 18 inches wide by 13 inches tall by 9 inches deep. There is a stock photo on the company website that shows a normal size adult man carrying this size of the briefcase and you can quickly see how it dwarfs his body. Ever since high school (especially during college) my mother would complain that I pack my backpack way to full. It is true. I do in fact do this. Many days currently I am carrying two backpacks to my classroom to accommodate two laptops, an iPad, all the associated cords, a couple of notebooks, a planner, a textbook or two, papers to grade, and possibly a book I am reading or three. So if I am honest with myself and others and it truly was about the size and nothing else then why still want a briefcase that might not completely meet my needs. You see I do have a backpack that comes close to carrying all of that. However I wanted the briefcase because it was slightly bigger than my backpack and it was the only briefcase I have found this wide and deep. Plus it is slightly more professional and carrying it by the handle would not wrinkle my suit jacket each morning as I walk from my car into work.

As I have thought about this silly situation this afternoon it has brought some needed clarity to my life. One of the first things I did after seeing the discontinuation of this wanted item was to leave a couple of Facebook groups dedicated to this company. You seem sometimes we can get so caught up in something that we loose touch with reality. Recently I saw a member of one of the groups post that had spent $17,000 just this year (not even a full four months yet) buying new and used bags and briefcases from this company. I mean he definitely is not a public school teacher in Oklahoma with that kind of discretionary spending. You know, I have already felt some freedom from just leaving these social media groups. I definitely feel less pressure to fit some specific mold or meet a certain expectation.

I am now going to examine other areas of my life over coming days and see what I can similarly eliminate. Who knows what other dreams or hopes may die but I would wager they need to expire and my life will be the better for it.

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Posted by on April 28, 2017 in Uncategorized


2017 MLB Predictions


American League

AL East

  1. Boston Red Sox
  2. New York Yankees*
  3. Baltimore Orioles
  4. Toronto Blue Jays
  5. Tampa Bay Rays

AL Central

  1.  Cleveland Indians
  2. Kansas City Royals*
  3. Detroit Tigers
  4. Chicago White Sox
  5. Minnesota Twins

AL West

  1.  Texas Rangers
  2. Seattle Mariners
  3. Houston Astros
  4. Los Angeles Angels
  5. Oakland Athletics

*Wild Card


AL Playoffs

Wild Card

Kansas City over New York

Divisional Series

Texas Rangers over Kansas City Royals

Cleveland Indians over Boston Red Sox


Cleveland Indians over Texas Rangers


AL Award Winners

CY Young – Yu Darvish (Texas Rangers)

MVP – Francisco Lindor (Cleveland Indians)

ROY – Aaron Judge (New York Yankees)


National League

NL East

  1. New York Mets
  2. Washington Nationals
  3. Miami Marlins
  4. Atlanta Braves
  5. Philadelphia Phillies

NL Central  

  1.  Chicago Cubs
  2. St. Louis Cardinals*
  3. Pittsburgh Pirates
  4. Milwaukee Brewers
  5. Cincinnati Reds

NL West

  1.  San Francisco Giants
  2. Los Angeles Dodgers
  3. Colorado Rockies
  4. Arizona Diamondbacks
  5. San Diego Padres

*Wild Card


NL Playoffs

Wild Card

St. Louis Cardinals over the Los Angeles Dodgers

Divisional Series

Chicago Cubs over St. Louis Cardinals

San Francisco Giants over New York Mets


Chicago Cubs over San Francisco Giants


NL Award Winners

CY Young – Madison Bumgardner (San Francisco Giants)

MVP – Kris Bryant (Chicago Cubs)

ROY – Dansby Swanson (Atlanta Braves)


World Series

Chicago Cubs over Cleveland Indians

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Posted by on April 2, 2017 in Sports


Guest Post – Mark Miller

How Long Is Long Enough?

“How long do you work with someone before you make a tough decision?” This was the question two different people asked me recently. Both had inherited a person who was unable or unwilling to do their job.

Does this situation sound familiar? Clearly, you want to do the right thing. The challenge is two-fold: discerning the right thing and then mustering the courage to do it.

I have no silver bullet to offer you. However, here a few factors to consider:

Look at the person’s history – What is this person’s track record? Is it one of accomplishment or mediocrity? If the person has demonstrated competence in the past, perhaps the current concerns are circumstantial or fleeting.

Go the extra mile – Truett Cathy once told me, “No one builds a career terminating people. You build a career by helping people be successful.” These words have always driven me to go above and beyond when dealing with serious performance issues. One of my questions in these difficult situations is, “What else can I do?”

Explore other roles – This is tricky. If you are not careful, a poor performer can move repeatedly throughout his or her career without growing or changing. This “moving the problem” is not what I am advocating. Sometimes, a person just ends up in the wrong job. He or she may be extremely gifted in some other area. If you can discover that sweet spot, I am all in favor of moving someone to help them thrive.

Consider the person’s potential – This may seem controversial to some. Yes, I acknowledge the worth of every human being. At the same time, I know our time as leaders is our most precious asset. We must steward our time wisely. To over-invest in someone with limited potential doesn’t make sense. What do you believe this person’s long term impact can be if you successfully navigate the current difficulty?

Don’t forget the impact on the team – Always remember poor individual performance is cancer in a team. If it is allowed to persist it hurts the performer, the team and the leader. The team has to carry the burden of under contributing members; while the leader must focus valuable time on the individual.

Seek council – Hiring decisions are too important to be made by any single individual and so are termination decisions. Who are your trusted advisors for situations involving serious performance issues? Do you have counselors inside and outside your organization? In the world we live in, it is never a bad idea to seek legal and human resource professionals to help process your decision.

Be courageous – I know this is easier to say than it is to do. However, leaders must be courageous if our organizations are going to reach their full potential. In the case of a poor performing team member, we have two equally important factors at play – the life of the person we are working with; and our own credibility as a leader. Jim Collins challenged our leaders to respond with courage, “If you don’t you will steal a person’s life.”

So, how long is long enough? Hard to say. My best advice for you is something I heard from Jimmy Collins as he addressed our leaders many years ago. He said, “When dealing with performance issues, err on the side of grace.” Just not too much grace…


Mark Miller is the best-selling author of 6 books, an in-demand speaker and the Vice President of High-Performance Leadership at Chick-fil-A. His latest book, Leaders Made Here, describes how to nurture leaders throughout the organization, from the front lines to the executive ranks and outlines a clear and replicable approach to creating the leadership bench every organization needs.

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Posted by on March 13, 2017 in Uncategorized


Edmonton Mission Trip – March 2017

I have an amazing opportunity to travel to Edmonton Canada this March.  My church, Aydelotte Baptist Church, is in the midst of establishing a long-term partnership with the city of Edmonton.  During my trip there I will be able to attend Sunday services at one of the church plants—Open Door Church.  I will also be able to spend at least 1 day praying with and encouraging Dennis Milne (the Open Door Church Planting Pastor) and his wife.  I will then have another day to devote to prayer walking/driving around Edmonton with Stan Felder NAMB (North American Mission Board) missionary that lives in Edmonton.  This will also be a day where vision-casting and dreaming for future ways for the church to be involved in the city will occur.

The Edmonton metro area is home to around 1.1 million people, many of them working in the Oil & Gas Industry.  Less than 6% of Edmonton is evangelical & there is currently one SBC church for every 50,835 residents.

Here is where the funds being raised will be spent.

·      Travel Expenses              $1200

o   Flight                        $600

o   Meals*                      $600

·      Stretch Goal                       $1750

o   Above Expenses     $1200

o   Camera#                   $550

*This includes an incidental amount that will be used for baggage fees as well as any unforeseen expenses while in Canada.

#This stretch amount would allow the purchase of a digital camera to be used for missions and ministry purposes.

The logistics of this trip are fairly simple.  Either the Stan or Dennis will pick me up at the airport and I will stay with either the Felder’s or Milne’s during the days I am in Edmonton. The bulk of the cost is the air travel to Canada.  If you are able to give and to help financially that would be most appreciated.  The biggest thing I am asking though is for each of you to pray for this trip and for the work going on in Canada.

You can give through my gofundme account.

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Posted by on January 21, 2017 in Missions


Gettysburg Extended

Twelve score years ago our Founding Fathers sought to establish a more perfect union, a union where all are equal. Seven score and thirteen years ago President Lincoln declared that union was still flawed and work was left to be done. Two score and thirteen years past Dr. King painted a poignant picture of a beautifully diverse future where all are equal. A short eight years ago then candidate Obama powerfully admonished us to again take up the cause of ending and fighting against racism and to no longer ignore its ills and poison. Today I am declaring to you the work is not yet completed. If it is a mountain we are crossing then we are still within spitting distance of the base instead of being able to even glimpse the summit on the far horizon. All men and women, regardless of race, gender or any other status or creed, are endowed with inalienable rights, of which are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Unfortunately we find ourselves today standing on a precipice upon whence we can view just how tragically these rights are deprived of for many citizens in our country.

I pen these words from a state where this is overtly true. The statistics of those imprisoned in my state are especially evidentiary of this fact. Oklahoma is 70% white but the penal system here is only 49% white. Hispanics make up only 9% of the state populace, but 15% of the prison population. African Americans account for a mere 7% of my state but they fill 26% of the prisons. This is found similarly across the nation. How can a people be free when they are grossly disproportionately imprisoned? I would say to you they cannot! We must reach high to our better angels to find a better way. For we cannot truly be free until all in our land are equally free.

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Posted by on August 30, 2016 in Culture


Red Cups, Chicken Sandwiches, & What Really Matters

Recently there has been some craziness going on in the Christian subculture. I know this might be hard for you to believe, but believe me the Christian bubble has entered into a whole new realm of kookiness. This year’s design of the red cups at Starbucks created this cray cray melee. If you are not familiar with the red cups at Starbucks they are a season thing that appear each year when they bring back the Christmas time seasonal beverages. To Starbucks addicts and lovers (which I am one) they are as anticipated as the much craved Pumpkin Spice Lattes. I don’t know if the red cup has its own Twitter and Instagram accounts, but it should. Anyways the cups this year are just red. They do not have any designs or words or anything other than the color red. Apparently this should be an affront to my Christian faith. Some dude was so offended he made an angry Facebook video saying Starbucks hates Jesus. I warned you the kookiness has gone bat crap cray cray this year.

Some people more eloquent and better positioned than I to take on the task of demolishing this line of thinking have already done so. I am not going to attempt to restate what they have already said. I will simply say Starbucks is a corporation and not a person. Corporations do not go to heaven or hell. People go to heaven or hell. With this premise being established here is what I do want to attempt to say on this matter. I want to use the rest of this space to point out how Christians should love going to both Starbucks and Chick-fil-A. We should feel comfortable spending money at both places because we love Jesus and we love people.

Until several months ago I had spent the last three and half years on the management/leadership team of a Chick-fil-A, the home of the greatest chicken nuggets, the inventor of the chicken sandwich, and the maker of waffle fries, sweet tea and fresh squeezed lemonade. Oh and Chick-fil-A is the Christian fast food mega star. Here is the thing about Chick-fil-A though: it is a business. Now the leadership of the company, they are Christians. They seek to bring God glory in all they do. However at the local level many of those owner/operators have one thing on their minds and that is making money. They will sell a #1 large sized with a Dr. Pepper to a heterosexual, open carrying, flag waving, Christian, tea party republican just as easily as they will sell a #5 8 count grilled with cole slaw and a medium unsweet tea to a transgender socialist atheist, or a cobb salad and a water to a radical suicide bomber. Just make sure and remember to hold the bacon on that salad for the radical terrorist. Some owners are very generous and giving and want to bless those around them and some just want more money in their own accounts. That is ok, they are business owners making a living.

Here is the other thing about Chick-fil-A. You may go there because you love Jesus and Tim Hawkins and Duck Dynasty but chances are the person serving you doesn’t. Chick-fil-A hires people. Not all of them are believers in Christ. Not all of them are republicans. Not all of them are heterosexual. That shouldn’t change your opinion of Chick-fil-A though. You should still go there. You should still support them. Why? Because people need Jesus!

The thing is, this should be our same attitude when it comes to Starbucks. I love coffee. I know there is better coffee at other places, but I love Starbucks because it is convenient and consistent. And well I am addicted to Pumpkin Spice Lattes. There was a Starbucks across the parking lot from my Chick-fil-A. I went there a lot. The workers all knew me by name, and I knew them by name. They ate a lot of Chick-fil-A too. Some of the workers there loved Jesus and some didn’t. They are people. Just like the people working at Chick-fil-A. Now the Chick-fil-A workers have less tattoos and piercings and facial hair (I have not shaved since leaving Chick-fil-A and it feels so good!), but they are all people. They are people that need Grace. They are people that need Jesus.

During my three and half years slinging chicken I was privileged to get to know some of my employees and co-workers well. I was able to pray with my boss as his wife went through a terminal illness. I got to celebrate engagements and graduations with some employees. I got to pray with some of the people there as they faced tough times in life. I also got to pray with some customers as they faced things in life and to celebrate with them as well. I also was able to get to do the same with some employees from Starbucks. I got to know them and got to model Jesus to them. If I avoided the place where they worked because of something as silly and arbitrary as a cup I would not have been able to build a relationship with those people. Now God might have sent someone else to fill that gap and to minister to those people, but I would have missed out on that.

So instead of getting mad over really silly things we need to have a heart that loves people and seeks to get to know them because they need Jesus too!

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Posted by on November 9, 2015 in Culture, Current Events


Spirit Led Church Planting – Reflections From The Beach

Recently I have been thinking a lot about church planting and what that means and looks like in a  place like Oklahoma.  This morning as I played in the water along the beach in Galveston, TX I had the chance to reflect upon a lot of my recent thoughts and let God speak to me.  In general I think church planting is far too often done more from a practical, logical, and entrepreneurial stance than it is done from a spiritual one.  Now I think the former has a place but not so much that we over plan and strategize to the point that we leave no room for the moving and leading of the Holy Spirit.

At the beginning of the book of Joshua the Israelites are preparing to finally enter into the Promised Land.  The long, wondering journey is now over and the time for taking the land has finally come.  In chapter 1 Joshua is commissioned by God and takes command of the people.  Then in chapter 2 they send in the spies to Jericho and in chapter 3 there is a fascinating account of all the people crossing the Jordan river.  It is this crossing of the Jordan river that my mind turned to this morning while enjoying the rolling waves coming across the sandbars and that I believe has much to teach us about church planting by the Holy Spirit.

12Now therefore take twelve men from the tribes of Israel, from each tribe a man. 13And when the soles of the feet of the priests bearing the ark of the Lord, the Lord of all the earth, shall rest in the waters of the Jordan, the waters of the Jordan shall be cut off from flowing, and the waters coming down from above shall stand in one heap.”

14So when the people set out from their tents to pass over the Jordan with the priests bearing the ark of the covenant before the people, 15and as soon as those bearing the ark had come as far as the Jordan, and the feet of the priests bearing the ark were dipped in the brink of the water (now the Jordan overflows all its banks throughout the time of harvest),  Joshua 3:12-15

We got to Galveston mid afternoon yesterday and after unloading the vehicles we all hurriedly changed into our swimsuits and hit the beach.  I was tired after having woken up at 4:00 AM to start the drive to the beach so I did not venture out to far from the shore.  I played in the shallow water and took my kids out as far as they would go without screaming.  This morning though I was rested and invigorated and decided to venture out much further.  I reach a point on a sandbar where I could still stand with my head above water.  The calm water was to the top of my shoulders and when bigger waves would roll across I would have to jump to keep my head above water.  It was at this point that I began to think about the above passage.

Any of us that have been in church for some time have surely heard of the dramatic crossing of the Red Sea and how God parted the waters before Moses or any of the Israelites set foot into the sea bed.  This crossing of a body water is very different.  Both are miraculous and amazing but I think this Joshua passage speaks to what it is like to set out to plant churches by and through the leading of the Holy Spirit.  When the priests carrying the ark of the covenant first lifted their feet to step into the Jordan River they were not lifting the feet over dry ground.  No they were lifting it over water.  They weren’t just lifting it over calm or relatively calm shallow water either.  No they were lifting their feet over roaring flood stage waters.  The Jordan River is normally 90-100 feet wide and ranges from 3-9 feet deep.  In flood stage this is increased dramatically sometimes reaching widths up to 1 mile and depths of 150 feet.  This spring and summer those of us in Oklahoma have come to better appreciate flood waters.  As I was bouncing and frolicking in almost 5.5 foot water this morning I began to  imagine what it would be like to take a step over roaring deep water and trusting that when I brought my foot down it would be on dry land.  It would take some faith that is sure!

Flood (1)

That is the same type and level of faith it takes to pursue Spirit led church planting.  When you say yes to God that you are going to plant a church and follow where His Spirit leads then you may not know where your foot will hit when you take that next step or the next one or the next one or the one after that.  Your trust and dependence has to be firmly embedded in God.  This is the type of church planting we need.

When we plant churches through the direction of the Holy Spirit that is what will happen.  The Holy Spirit will move and call people to Christ.  It may be tens, it may be tens of thousands.  It may be messy at times and it may be trying and difficult.  It will require deep faith and a continual openness to saying yes to where and how the Spirit leads.  It is what is deeply needed though.  Let’s follow God into the deep waters and plant churches as His Spirit directs!

Oceans (1)

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Posted by on August 4, 2015 in Church Planting