I know quite a few quarrelsome people. In fact more than a few people would even say that I might be one, depending upon what point of my life they knew me. I admit I have a very stubborn nature and always want to be right. I am seeking daily to bring that more under the Gospel and to let God change me in that. Sometimes I read verses that make me wonder if people who are quarrelsome should be in ministry or not. Here are some of them.
1The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task.2Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach,3not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. 1 Timothy 3:1-3
23Have nothing to do with foolish, ignorant controversies; you know that they breed quarrels.24And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil,25correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth, 2 Timothy 2:23-25
7For an overseer, as God’s steward, must be above reproach. He must not be arrogant or quick-tempered or a drunkard or violent or greedy for gain,8but hospitable, a lover of good, self-controlled, upright, holy, and disciplined.9He must hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught, so that he may be able to give instruction in sound doctrine and also to rebuke those who contradict it. Titus 1:7-9
Not quarrelsome. The Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone. He (the overseer) must not be arrogant or quick tempered. I think this is a fairly clear issue. Those in ministry that have the office of Elder, or Overseer, or Pastor should not be quarrelsome. We should not go looking for a fight. Now we do need to ferociously protect the sheep, but we should not always be getting in silly and petty arguments. I wonder how this would change our blog posts and tweets and status updates if we really took this too hard and sought, as Romans 12:18 tell us, to live at peace with all men. I think we would be able to squelch many of needless fights and focus more on spreading the Gospel.